We started talking yesterday about the subject of Accountability – being a person that is not a law unto themselves but rather someone who places around their life a circle of wise counsel. Today’s text tells us that if we want to wage a good war and remain safe we need to have wise counsel in place in our lives – a collection of people who are wise and love God, who have an invitation to speak into your life when you want advice and when you don’t.
I have pastored for quite a while now, and have learned some things. One thing I have learned is that you’re everyone’s pastor until you tell them something they don’t want to hear – then you find out whose pastor you really are. If you are going to experience the full power of godly counsel in your life you have to remove any lids or ‘no-go areas’. So many times I have seen people seek wise counsel for some areas of their lives but protectively and selectively keep it out of others. You can guess what happens – they remain safe and win in some areas of their life but continually struggle and lose in the areas they have ‘locked down’. This is such foolishness when you establish wise counsel in your life – give them permission to speak into every area and don’t throw your toys out of the pram when they do and you don’t like what they say. Grow up and have the courage to ask them “why”. Sure, weeping or annoyance may endure for a night, but if it’s godly counsel then rejoicing will come after.
The more important the area the more open you should be to the voice of those you have asked to speak into your life. If you truly value your children, why would you shut out the counsel of those who have raised great young people when they want to teach you something? Maybe it’s your marriage, your finances or even your walk with God – don’t shut out wise counsel, let it in, give it the right to speak, and when it does have the humility to listen, Why? Simple. If you have picked the right people then they are trying to set you up for safety and position you to win the battles you may face.
As I said yesterday, make sure you have a circle of wise counsel in your life. If you don’t, pray and seek out not the ones you want but the ones you need. Give them the right to speak and, when they do from hearts that love you, listen. Let there be no lids or no-go areas; give these people AAA (access all areas). Believe me, you will be thankful you did when you experience your life winning wars instead of losing them.